Permission to Marry in the Episcopal Church?

Question by TruthSeeker: Permission to Marry in the Episcopal Church?
I had a seriously wild past. You can pick on me if you’d like and say I shouldn’t be getting married, but that’s not really the point, here. I was raised in the Episcopal church which is why I want to marry there.

I was married once VERY briefly in the military, and was beaten severely and divorced.

I was married again a few years later, had a child, and the man had many many affairs (some, I later discovered, were before we even married…he was a bit of an “addict”) while also being abusive (though not as much physically), and we divorced.

So I waited many years later, and I re-found a man whom I’ve known since we were young. Our families were close to each other, so I at least knew he wasn’t nuts when we started dating. We have taken things slowly, finally bought a house together, and have lived together for a few years.

We went to the Episcopal priest to plan our wedding for April. He said we’d need a couple meetings first before he decided to sent the letter to the bishop seeking permission for the marriage. We had our first meeting, and he said he’d write the letter. Yesterday, he emailed and said he needed more info and wants to meet with us again.

The problem: Between our last meeting and this one, I have discovered that I was pregnant. VERY unplanned and unexpected.

So the questions: Should I mention this at the next meeting even though it’s early (it will be about 9 weeks at that point) or keep it to myself until the end of the first trimester (so I’m sure of no miscarriage), and after the letter is sent? Do you believe this will change his willingness to seek permission if he knows before writing the letter? Does the Episcopal Church allow for a legal marriage before a church one in the event that we want to marry legally now and continue to plan the church wedding?

I’m not looking for Atheist “Sky Fairy Fiction Book” responses. I believe in it. I am a Christian. Snark won’t change my mind. Please let me know if you actually know anything about this. Thanks.
Ummmm…ok. Well, this church is very old school and the priest is a rather old straight married man. So no, not part of my problem.
They don’t want money. The process and the wedding are free. Unlike the Catholic church whom we went to first because my fiancee is Catholic. They wanted a minimum of $ 1000 and couldn’t even assure us they’d annul the marriages. I don’t know what Episcopal churches you guys are going to, but they’re definitely not following the rules of the church!
Thank you, James. I think I already knew you were right 🙂

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Answer by Casey
I am a heterosexual man married to my wife. I have been to an episcapol church. The preacher was a lesbian and was hitting on my wife. I will never go to the episcapol church again. Homosexual preachers is wrong. Dont know if this has anything to do with you and your problem, but just saying.

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Edinburgh. Saint Mary’s Episcopal Cathedral, looking East

Edinburgh. Saint Mary’s Episcopal Cathedral, looking East
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Joining the Episcopal Church?

Question by Paladin: Joining the Episcopal Church?
I’ve been reading the Bible and searching for a church for some time now and I seem to find that the Episcopal Church seems to fall most in line with my beliefs. However, I have many questions.

I’ve never been baptized or been a formal member of any church, though I have attended Catholic Mass from time to time in the past. I was also once [foolishly] married for a short time when I was younger and thought I was in love, however, she was fairly unstable and simply abandoned the relationship shortly after. Extremely poor judgment on my part. Nevertheless a full legal and proper divorce was obtained through a civil court.

With those brief background pieces provided, I have many questions about joining the Episcopal church:

How is Baptism performed? Is it a public or private ceremony or is it your choice? Are classes required as part of the process of joining?

How about the previous divorce and the possibility of a future marriage? What type of religious.. ‘hurdles’ so-to-speak would I have to go through to get remarried? Would a remarriage have any effect on taking Communion in the Episcopal Church?

I know I’ve asked many questions, which might take a few words to answer. I sincerely thank all in advance for the help.

P.S. I can probably guess that some will recommend that I contact my local Episcopal Priest. I will do this but I would like to have some ideas about these things beforehand. Thanks again.
Thanks so much to TheOneWhoKnows and LoveLikeWinter for the great answers.

Apparantly the others who responded cannot read because they did not even answer my question.

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Answer by lovelikewinter
The Episcopal Church is really open minded, you can basically do anything you want to be happy. You can remarry as many times as you want, you can be baptist however you want. They don’t have any problems with gay people or anything…It’s really cool. If you’re open minded this is definitely the right church for you.

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question about the episcopal church?

Question by mhm: question about the episcopal church?
do episcopals [anglicans] use the extra books in the Bible that catholics use [like 1 and 2 macabees, wisdom, among others.]?

and do episcopals pray the hail mary, rosary, and so forth?

what relationship does the episcopal church have with the catholic?

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Answer by tonks_op
Yes we use the same bible as the RC. The High church people do all of the things that an RC does. The low church are more like the Methodist. In some parishes both type live in harmony. I am High church and I will say ‘we pray to the Saints’ and someone else in my parish will say ‘no we don’t’. It is a matter of personal practice. Also the Anglican church has monks and nuns, just like the RC does, but not as many.

The Anglican church broke away from the Roman church under Henry the Eighth. For a time the church was very anti-Catholic, but then there was a movement called the Oxford movement that brought back many of the practices of the Roman Church, but not necessarily all of the theology. Today we are not officially in communion with Roman, but there have been ongoing talks for many years.

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